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Monday, March 19, 2007

I received an email from biknor dulu2 about the dark side of married life. It says that, men still carry on their social life after marriage, but some women are married to a house, instead of married to a man! Married to a house ie (housewife la tu) is everyday tgk tembok rumah, sapu rumah, kemas rumah, mop rumah, masak, jaga anak, and just have to stay home..No chilling out with frens at a cafe..or window shopping. Just at home. If you have some things nak discuss, sakit ke, pening ke, problems ke, there is no one to talk to cos ur hubby will be bz 24/7. Or when he is home, he needs sleep and rest. And he will sleep the entire day but unless there is a phonecall for him, then he will be wide awake. After dat, sambung tidur. Other than phonecalls, if the wife kejut sure tak bangun. He expects the wife to be at his beck and call for meals and drinks and seldom helps to lessen the burden. Bila ade plans nak keluar, its just wif his frens. Kalau keluar wif family sometimes muke tak happy, cos penat. Nak window shopping pon takde mood. If the wife nak voice out certain things the man will surely highlight" I put the food on the plate.." Or " I'm the only one working here, i give yu the money, u just obey and keep your mouth shut!" Ade ke camtu? Scary rite..What if they are treated likewise? Okla..if u wan the wives to be senonoh macam wife, u know, stay home, masak and all, jaga harta benda, jaga anak..why cant husband too be a good one? Husbands have to be the imam in the fammily. Berapa ramai la suami2 yang solat lima waktu? Imam kan isteri dan anak2? Mengajar ke arah kebaikan? Memimpin keluarga? I guess tak ramai. Suami yang watai ade la ramai..suami yang melepak dengan members ade la ramai.. Im not being prejudice here, but reading the article pains me. Of course to be fair there are wives yang mcm siak jugak..but i guess surely mesti its the guy's fault punyer..(biase sey ..)

Yea i brought this up after i read the article written by wartawan BM, Fadilah A. Majid dated 18Mac 2007 about the typical husband and wife in Singapore. But men in other countries are the ones that do the household chores, cleaning, cooking..etc. Women strictly to look after husband's meals and children. I quote from the artile she wrote, ".. Malah setahu saya tak ada surah dalam AlQuran yang menegaskan bahawa tugas isteri ialah memasak, mengemas dan berbelanja ke pasar.."You should read the whole article and i totally agree with her. Of course, women should quit complainin if they want pahala, but sometimes the men should be sensitive towards their wife's needs too. They have to show good example to their kids, in being the imam of the family. So the kids will respect them and will follow their parent's footsteps.Like if the husband ringan2 kan tulang membantu isteri, or cakap lembut with the isteri, or simple task like mengimamkan solat, surely its a good example for the kids. With that article, of course byk men yang sarcastic about it, and sure ade yang just skimp through je, malas nak menghayati 'kata2 pujangga' akak wartawan kita tu. Betul tak? I guess its the same issue like how men mempertahankan soal kahwin 4 tu halal but bila part other things associated with agama, they tak ikut pon. Problems that usually occurs is cos women yang tak tahan diduga, like to balas membalas. You know, when their hubby suke keluar wif his frens, the wife pon tak nak kalah. When the hubby taknak jaga anak, the wife pon jaga nak taknak, (tak ikhlas..) when the hubby main kayu tiga, the wife pon feel that they should have an affair. Of course the victims here? The kids.. Bila anak jadi wild, nak salahkan siapa kan? (lol..like bek bek only i merapu kan.. anak Haji Sofwan..mesti la nak pandai berhujah..kekekeke..but its true kan? true la.. )

haiz..whatever la..as long as i live happily ever after.. like a fairy tale...




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